it seems to be a real sad truth - but slowly i am involuntarily sliding towards the conclusion that - no matter how hard you try - not even when dedicating a good part of yourself to it - you will not be able to really understand someone else. maybe sometimes a bit; if you have a lot of patience and the other one is helping you. but often enough they do not. i wonder if it is because they do not want to be known, because they are avoiding knowing themselves. somehow i can not believe that it should be because they generally do not want to be understood (i guess everybody in some sense has this need to be understood by people in their surroundings - or are there people who honestly do not care?).
so what is to be done with this? i find it annoying that all these attempts to bribe people out of the security of their shell should be so fruitless.. so i guess the only chance i have is to become very very old and never ever move place again.. maybe then i'll get lucky. other ideas?
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In my opinion there is no reason to trust people. In order to let people understand you, you have to let them to get close to you socially, which also means you have to trust them. Trust is something you can develop over the course of time, but definitely long time. Sadly enough trust can be smashed away in a fraction of a second.
Then there is liking, trust is not enough. Different people like other people for different reasons.
Nevertheless I suppose most people need at least one person who would understand them.
My dear sister, there is no way to fully understand somebody else. As nobody can even fully understand ourselves. People usually never open up just like that. It takes time to build trust in others, and this can be done, usually, by first of all trusting them. Sometimes even as time goes by this this dead-lock keeps on waiting.
But acctualy the problem is not in breaking this dead-lock, but in our thinking, when we think: "That somebody must do something, or act in some way we would like them to act". They don't! If they do - that's a blessing, if not - sorry but there's nothig you can do about it.
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