the first obvious step to me seemed to look up what the word itself actually means. here are my findings:
so, if i understood correctly, hypocrites are people whose behaviour seems to diverge quite noticeably from their stated opinions about how one should behave. of course this seems to be bad - especially in situations when a person is expecting things of others, which they are not willing to provide for themselves. so i understand people, who get very annoyed or frustrated by this behaviour.
On the other hand, i felt occasionally, as if people complaining most about hypocrites fail to understand that it can be very difficult to live up even to one's own expectations of a good life. even people having very high ideals in life and trying very hard to fulfill them might not be able to close the gap and perfectly practice what they preach. so i wonder if it is really possible for anyone to judge them for it?
i guess we are never really in the position of finding out how much someone is putting into being sincere in their behaviour, so i find it very hard to just hate so-called hypocrites so much.. especially as this hate could quickly turn the hater in a hypocrite as well (except in the presence of very low expectations to behaviour ;) and this really isn't helping. probably exactly the opposite - non-judging - behaviour could improve the situation: if somebody aware of failing his own standards still feels accepted by another person, they will much easier admit that they are not perfect, and maybe even reflect what is causing this gap. quite a chance for improvement, i'd reckon.
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If person's behaviour diverges from his stated opinions it does not yet make him a hypocrite. For instance, if I advice a friend not to smoke, though I smoke myself it does not make me a hypocrite.
Hypocricy is deception about ones true feelings. For example, If I believe smoking is bad for health, but I tell others I think it's good and they should smoke - I'm a hypocrite.
So in short: failing your own standards does not make you a hypocrite. Lying about your standards makes you a hypocrite. Sometimes one lies about his standards even to himself.
I guess this is an aspect that went missing in my thoughts.. however, the question remains why people should lie about their expectations, and also how one could cure such thing. I guess people do so because of their (or their surrounding's) value system. It does not allow them to admit what their real need and purpose is, and maybe they feel even ashamed to accept it for themselves. So the problem of missing sincerity is not only theirs, but also of the environment. I think this is what I meant about accepting them and making them feel that being less than perfect is more than enough for being ok. One can't just expect sincerity - there is also the need to create a social climate for it.
And who are we to judge anyone? Moreover who are we to judge the judging of another person? From the inside of a personality (let me suggest you to imagine being in the house of a person) all of the mirrors are distorted. Self projection is a continuous movie in a distorted space. Find me a person with straight mirrors, 100 percent correct standards of morale, and I will think it is a robot, made by ppl who agreed on standards for the time period of a project.
I of course know nothing of the eastern techniques to discard subjectiveness of a subject(person), Christian monks depersonalization. Those ppl might have straight mirrors.
fair point ;) i guess noone gets around judging, however, some people seem to guess more openminded or correct than others..
but what do i know :P
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